Glitter in our Hearts Forever
Yesterday I heard the devastating news that Monique Millender AKA MoMo, @Messyhappiness, @LoveHopeHeels, @gummiebearpixie had passed away. From what I hear, at the age of 33 she had a heart attack and died the next morning. Her life story is one of endurance and happiness. She faced many challenges, including having fibromyalgia, lupus, reoccurring seizures, infertility and a miscarriage. She truly had to learn how to strongly advocate for her own health after some horrible doctors had put some incorrect information in her charts.
She was lucky to have an amazing husband, James, always by her side, encouraging her, helping her out and offering stuffed animals. Please keep her family in your thoughts and prayers. Through it all she managed to support other spoonies and she always took the time to thank others for supporting her during tough times. She had a huge heart and loved to laugh, something that came through in all of her blog posts. She liked making graphic tag images, like the one below, and wrote inspirational messages on her hand. When that became challenging she started typing inspiring messages on a picture of her hand!
We hadn’t talked as much this year due to obstacles on both sides, but luckily we had the chance to catch up a bit over the past 4 months. The pregnancy hormones have made handling this even harder and my heart ached for her as I was at pregnancy class getting a tour of the maternity ward. I knew how much Monique’s miscarriage weighed on her and it didn’t seem right to be excited for a new life when I’m in such sorrow for loosing another. Loosing her is a huge loss for the online spoonie community, something those in her offline life may not have realized the extent of until today. I feel like this post doesn’t nearly give her justice, but it’s all I can piece together in this stunned state.
Monique asked that in lieu of flowers, donations be made to The Lupus Foundation of America. Her sister-in-law created a Facebook page to continue spreading lupus awareness and share information with her friends.